Bumping into an ex after a breakup is always an emotional and confusing experience, and it can leave you feeling very awkward and anxious and it’s not the best feeling in the world to have.
From the moment you first saw your ex your heart starts racing, you suddenly start to feel sweaty and very uncomfortable and at that moment you have no idea how you will react, if you will be able to get a word out of your mouth or if you will completely lose control and create a scene.
But this is the moment when you need to pull yourself together, stay calm, and remember the tips below.
Things to remember when bumping into your ex:
• Keep it short and sweet
Take a deep breath, stay calm and confident, smile and say hi and walk away.
• Try not to get into a long conversation because you don’t need to keep up with what has happened since the breakup.
• Remember that the more you talk, the greater the risk of embarrassment.
By keeping your conversation short and sweet, you will appear to be in control of the situation and not the emotional wreck you are in.
• Do not remember the past
If your ex tries to keep you engaged in a conversation longer than you planned, keep the conversation light and friendly and resist the urge to bring up the past because this is not the time to air your grievances.
Instead, arrange a private meeting at a later date for that discussion and walk away as soon as possible.
• Be the best person
Trying to stay cool and calm, when meeting your ex can be difficult, especially if he is still very angry and trying to get into a fight with you. The best you can do is be the better person, stay calm, be friendly, and tell your ex that you can meet up at another time and place and then walk away. At the end of the day, they’ll feel bad about how they reacted, not you.
• Don’t misread the position
If everything is going well and you have a great friendly chat and your ex gives you a hug, don’t misread the situation.
After all, you were a couple who were madly in love in the past, and your ex is probably trying to do the same thing as you, to keep things interesting. It doesn’t necessarily mean that your ex wants to get back with you just because they said goodbye to you.
Remember to leave the fun conversation and hugs for that moment and continue to move forward with the recovery process.